It's Not Complicated. It's Easy.

Yesterday, while knocking out an extensive list of errands, a (young, FINE, chocolate lol) man approached me and said: 

"Hopefully I don't offend you, but I KNOW it has to be difficult being a big, beautiful, confident woman as you effortlessly are". 

I smiled and replied : 

"Actually, knowing & showing precisely who I am makes it quite a simple lifestyle".

It would have been easy to become defensive, but why? He actually had a good point. People stare because my stomach is being showcased. They frown at the sight of my puffy hair. They think I jiggle too much, and should probably wear a girdle. They're angry because i'm comfortable and not tugging on my clothes all day.  They see flaws, I see character. I speak, they ignore me. Their spouse smiles, though *winks*. They're baffled at the sight of my glide in these 6-inch heels. I intentionally utilize "sex appeal" to my advantage, even with flats and no makeup on. I'm sexy. They say to their friend "she is too big for all that...", while simultaneously/ subconsciously wishing they had the confidence.  

 I have been heavier than average all of my life, it has not always been okay with me. I didn't have a magical moment where I suddenly believed that I was worthy or beautiful, but the assurance and acceptance progressed over time ... now i'm here. I went through darkness as a teen, including depression and eating disorders, and wished someone was there to lift me up and encourage me. Only God was there, and I overcame only by his grace. 

Now, as an (almost) 23-year-old, I make it my duty to be that friend and support system I was searching so desperately for. It elates me that I inspire so many different women from all walks of life, it is my mission. 

So the giggles, the side-eyes, the glaring ... it's all fine in 2013. At the end of the day I go to sleep with my personal mission/ vision on the brain, and with the same mind set to make myself even better. I sleep well, so proud of where I am now, compared to where I once was. 

Being curvy to me, personally, means being particularly beautiful, unique, controversial, strong, being an assured leader. It means being me, proudly. What's so hard about that? 

♥ Queen Charisma

Outfit Details: 

Earth-Toned Abstract Top - Thrifted, $4

Reversible Leather Gold Buckle Belt - JCP, Clearance, $10

Fringe Bag - Ross, $15.99

Acid Wash Printed Jeggings - LoveDrunkBoutique

Orange Cutout (Wood) Heel/ Wedges - ZooShoo, $22

Glasses - Vintage, Gifted

Wood Bangles - Flea Market, $2/ each